My husband and I recently celebrated our first wedding anniversary (you can read a little more about it here). Now that I’ve been married a little over a year, I can say that I have learned quite a few things. I’m sure you’ve heard of the show MythBusters, right? I’ll be debunking six common myths people have about marriage.
Myth #1: A perfect marriage begins with Mr./Mrs. Right.
There is no such thing as the perfect mate. We’re all flawed in nature. A great marriage is about two people who don’t give up on each other. A great spouse is someone who enjoys spending time with you, even through the good and bad times. Someone who will love, appreciate and take good care of you.
Myth #2: Your spouse should know what you’re thinking and needing at all times.
Truth be told, your other half isn’t a mind reader—and neither are you. That’s why you need to communicate with each other. When many of us get married, we expect our spouses to be true romantics 24/7 and know our needs, but the truth of the matter is that it won’t be that way. I think social media and movies play a huge role in the popularity of this myth. Communication is key. A great way to show unconditional love to your spouse is by learning their love language and practicing it.
Myth#3: Your spouse is supposed to complete you.
No matter how happy you and your spouse may be, or how great things are going, you’ll still have that empty void that only God can fill. By you both loving the Father and putting Him first, you’ll be able to pour more love into your marriage. This is something I had to learn.
Myth #4: Your life and dreams come to a complete stop after marriage.
There’s this weird misconception about marriage where some couples think that your life is over, you can’t do what you want, or have dreams after tying the knot. The truth? Life and dreams don’t end, but a new adventure begins once you say “I do.” I’m learning so much more about myself, hobbies, and dreams as a result of marriage. In fact, it’s what inspired me to start my journey as a blogger. The best part is getting to do life with my best friend.
Myth #5: “Submission” is for the weak.
Submission, a word commitment-phobes cringe at. I understand how the word intimidates those who aren’t familiar with the Bible-based view of marriage. Many women comprehend submission as being a Stepford wife, and that’s not true. Submission doesn’t mean a lack of intelligence or will. According to His word, it means trusting your husband to lead you and your future family while he’s also submitting to God to guide him. Husbands are supposed to lead the household. It’s the husband’s job to love his wife, and the wife’s job to respect her husband. The two go hand in hand.
Myth #6: Love is all you need.
A lot of changes occur after marriage. Responsibilities set in, and I’m sure we can all agree that adulting is hard. Love is obviously vital, but marriage also requires patience, understand, grace, forgiveness, and work. Good things take time and effort. They don’t just happen. Married couples should strive to give their spouses their all, and choose each other daily.