My Genuine Advice on Advice

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Advice is one of the easiest things to give. When you’ve lived a little and feel that you’ve learned some valuable lessons in life, it’s common to want to pass your wisdom onto others. I’m all for it, as I’ve received some really great counsel in the past. But the gag is: not all advice is good advice.

Facts and opinions are two totally different things. I know we all learned this in grade school, but just follow me here. Advice undoubtedly falls into the opinions category, and the opinions of others are usually based on their own personal experiences. People who want to succeed in life love success stories. Once consumed, you’ll often find that those aspirants try their best to duplicate what the successful people have done. I could say the same for people who have given up on their dreams as a result of their mistakes. This has the opposite effect on the people trying to succeed, as failures usually cause the aspirants to avoid the mistakes of others out of fear. One thing we must remember, however, is the fact that we’re all on different journeys. Your success story may not be the same as the people you’re emulating. And even though something might not work out for someone else, it doesn’t mean that it won’t work for you.

I can always distinguish the people who share their two cents for the right reasons from those who do it with impure motives. Can you? It just seems like the latter make it so obvious that they’re trying to steer you in the wrong direction. For that reason, you must do this one thing before accepting advice from anyone: talk to the Man upstairs!

I don’t have all the answers, and neither does anyone else. Only God has the master plan. You have to be discerning of the advice you accept and don’t accept—even from me! I find great joy in motivating and inspiring you gals. That’s why I share so many quotes on our social media channels. But I’ll say this now, and I’ll say this time and time again: not everything will apply to you. Unless you receive guidance from the Lord Himself, or this book right here, be slow to fully accept any other suggestions until you pray about it.

Johnaé Elease


Johnaé Elease is the founder of The Happy Joy. As someone whose personality is often described as bright & bubbly, her love for writing and sharing meaningful advice sparked the idea for this online community. Johnaé is also a humble servant of Christ who credits God, and her mother, as the primary reasons for her happiness.

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